Brand New on a Tuesday Night
Comments are the salt of my pork. Meaningless? Not entirely.
Took the DE test today. It wasn't so bad.
I should probably post something about girls being confusing just to be consistent with recent posts, but I don't really feel much animosity towards the opposite sex at the moment for some reason. Strange...
The more people are around the more alone I feel. It's a strange juxtaposition of expectations in that I try to surround myself with people in order to feel more like part of a group but somehow it never works out that way. In fact, I feel less lonely when I'm alone than surrounded by people. Something, I am sure, is broken in my brain. On the other hand, places like my home in Elizabethtown certainly can be lonely in a completely different sense. The rooms of that house feel like cavernous cathedrals dropped into an agoraphobic's worst nightmare... empty on the inside, empty on the outside. Like you're never really inside because nothing changes in the transition.
I feel obligated to respond at least somewhat to the comments made in the makeshift forum that has developed... so my thoughts on girls vs. guys as opposed to guys vs. girls:
Many girls really could manipulate guys as they pleased with a little practice. We as a gender are hardwired pretty strongly and unless the guy in question has already made up his mind not to be swayed by you (as I am getting more responsible about doing, thankfully), you ladies have the power to do as you please. You say it's pathetic to be like a lost puppy around you... and I agree. That doesn't, however, mean that it's possible to feel any other way when you really fall for some really sweet girl. You do stupid things around the girl in question hoping to make her like you, random things to make her pay attention to you... sometimes, and I know this from experience, a guy can specifically dislike the girl in question based on whatever logical issues you can raise. In the physical presence of said female, though, the guy frequently loses track of his dislike in the face of something much more powerful and mentally obfuscatory - infatuation or even love.
And that, boys and girls, is my two cents. Donate them to charity.
I have decided that I need a vacation. I'm going to Hawaii. I'm leaving Nov. 30th and returning Dec. 10th. I'll be staying at the Mariott Waikiki Beach and renting a compact car for the duration. Total cost is $2,882.18. Oh, and did I mention it's for two? Now, who wants to go?
So Halo 2 is out... and the verdict is... I need my own XBox. I want to play campaign, because multiplayer is too darn frustrating. It's well done, to be sure, but I hate losing all the time.
I love Scrubs so much... it's wonderful from beginning to painfully early end. But no! It doesn't have to end! There's more episodes because I stole them...
Hachfeld passed out behind me... he's currently snoring loudly. As impressed with myself as I always am for being able to fall asleep on a dime, this guy can drop out in his giant office chair with impressive speed and reversibility.
For a long time I thought I wanted to be like Mason from Dead Like Me - cool, British, and posessed of a completely different style from the rest of the world. Lately, though, I have realized that I am a lot like Mason - a screwup who only thinks he's cool because he's different.
I'm sinking like a stone in the sea.
I'm burning like a bridge for your body.
Took the DE test today. It wasn't so bad.
I should probably post something about girls being confusing just to be consistent with recent posts, but I don't really feel much animosity towards the opposite sex at the moment for some reason. Strange...
The more people are around the more alone I feel. It's a strange juxtaposition of expectations in that I try to surround myself with people in order to feel more like part of a group but somehow it never works out that way. In fact, I feel less lonely when I'm alone than surrounded by people. Something, I am sure, is broken in my brain. On the other hand, places like my home in Elizabethtown certainly can be lonely in a completely different sense. The rooms of that house feel like cavernous cathedrals dropped into an agoraphobic's worst nightmare... empty on the inside, empty on the outside. Like you're never really inside because nothing changes in the transition.
I feel obligated to respond at least somewhat to the comments made in the makeshift forum that has developed... so my thoughts on girls vs. guys as opposed to guys vs. girls:
Many girls really could manipulate guys as they pleased with a little practice. We as a gender are hardwired pretty strongly and unless the guy in question has already made up his mind not to be swayed by you (as I am getting more responsible about doing, thankfully), you ladies have the power to do as you please. You say it's pathetic to be like a lost puppy around you... and I agree. That doesn't, however, mean that it's possible to feel any other way when you really fall for some really sweet girl. You do stupid things around the girl in question hoping to make her like you, random things to make her pay attention to you... sometimes, and I know this from experience, a guy can specifically dislike the girl in question based on whatever logical issues you can raise. In the physical presence of said female, though, the guy frequently loses track of his dislike in the face of something much more powerful and mentally obfuscatory - infatuation or even love.
And that, boys and girls, is my two cents. Donate them to charity.
I have decided that I need a vacation. I'm going to Hawaii. I'm leaving Nov. 30th and returning Dec. 10th. I'll be staying at the Mariott Waikiki Beach and renting a compact car for the duration. Total cost is $2,882.18. Oh, and did I mention it's for two? Now, who wants to go?
So Halo 2 is out... and the verdict is... I need my own XBox. I want to play campaign, because multiplayer is too darn frustrating. It's well done, to be sure, but I hate losing all the time.
I love Scrubs so much... it's wonderful from beginning to painfully early end. But no! It doesn't have to end! There's more episodes because I stole them...
Hachfeld passed out behind me... he's currently snoring loudly. As impressed with myself as I always am for being able to fall asleep on a dime, this guy can drop out in his giant office chair with impressive speed and reversibility.
For a long time I thought I wanted to be like Mason from Dead Like Me - cool, British, and posessed of a completely different style from the rest of the world. Lately, though, I have realized that I am a lot like Mason - a screwup who only thinks he's cool because he's different.
I'm sinking like a stone in the sea.
I'm burning like a bridge for your body.
posted by Nick S. at
9:32 PM
11 Comments:
I have to disagree about the comment of girls can manipulate guys, but guys can't manipulate girls. I am a girl at Rose, and in my few months here so far I have been manipulated by one guy quite a bit. Now, I don't know if he know's he's manipulating me, but there is definitely some manipulating going on. And even now that I have begun to refuse the manipulation, he has another girl that he is manipulating. So, some guys can manipulate girls, and they do it darn well. And the whole comment of "In the physical presence of said female[in my case, male], though, the guy frequently loses track of his dislike in the face of something much more powerful and mentally obfuscatory - infatuation or even love." This comment definitely goes both ways also. I definitely felt and sometimes feel this way about this guy even though I don't want to feel that way anymore.
Not trying to attack, just pointing out it does go both ways.
Dude I am totally up for Hawaii!
I have been very intrigued by your comments regarding your confusion with us girls. Guys, however, can certainly be just as confusing, especially when manipulation comes into the picture. Guy manipulates girl, and girl falls for it...which often leads to girl getting hurt because of non-mutual feelings. This has happened to me with several guys, with you being one of those guys. When you talk about guys losing "track of [their] dislike in the face of something much more powerful", could that "something" be what is a part of a lot of manipulations on a guy's part; whereas guys tend to manipulate in order "to get some." Guys are confusing too...enough said.
Ouch - somebody put out the flames
wow...craziness...cant we all just get along?!?! hmm.. i think it is easiest just to say that there are certain things about some girls (and guys no matter how hard you try) you will never understand. and girls (even though we think we have them wrapped around our finger sometimes) the truth is, once you date a guy long enough, they arent going to take crap from you all the time. dating life sucks, and its rough for both sides. neither side has it worse. the only reason girls are more confusing, i think, is we complain to our girlfriends soooo much that after having one good conversation with a new girl, you can give her one look..and she knows exactly what you are thinking. this scares the hell out of most guys, who tend to not share defeat with the opposite sex with all their male friends (and for good reason too).
best advice: dont give up on dating, and dont ever talk bad about people you have dated. it was good while it lasted, hang onto that and dont be bitter. if it wasnt meant to be, then it just wasnt. you cant force stuff like that.
Right on, last Anonymous. Dating is really just the misogynists vs the misandrists. When they meet in the middle, all sorts of f*cked up things happen.
Jesus Christ, I forget to read the blog one night and the world explodes and war has begun.
I agree with the advice from Anonymous #5, which I'll get back to the whole anonymous thing later. See the way I see it, guys and girls think differently, but the problem is that neither think with their head, or at least not their brain. So as soon as the opposite sex can figure out what body part they use to think, they can be manipulated easily. Here, girls do it a crap ton more than guys. Period. It has everything to do with the ratio and if a guy thinks he has a chance with one of the few girls here, he'll do whatever he can to keep that hope alive. Now that doesn't mean the girls here are more evil than the rest of the world, they can just do it so much easier.
Now as for the whole anonymous comments, if you are gonna say something with any kind of bearing on it, at least have the balls (or if you are a girl, whatever the female equivalent to having balls is) to put your name to it. Then be prepared to back up what you say. Some of this stuff can get personal apparently and to just make an anonymous coment like such is like talking behind someone's back. I love how this blog has gotten people thinking and wanting to share their thoughts and kudos to Nick for stirring such debate. But are you afraid that someone might know what you think? Say something, then have the gall to back it up.
And those are my two cents for the evening. Want more, check out my blog at bobprescott.tblog.com
~Bob
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hahaha..anonymous 5 was cat....and i removed it because i wanted to see what the trash can did... :D...curiosity get me every time...yeh...never mind
Wow. Heated discussion topic, indeed. I will probably irritate some with my opinion but I feel like tossing in a few ideas to the melting pot.
Frankly, I oppose the idea of conglomerating the sexes into groups for ease of stereotyping. I think people, irregardless of sex, are unique and (unless extreme conformists) complex individuals. It's detrimental to one's outlook in trying to determine trends in personality, reaction to situations, ect. ect. among guys and girls. Ruling out anamolies for simplicity of understanding truly ruins the beauty of "self" and the thrill of spontaneity in social interation. It is disappointing to see relationships fail or simply never develop because both sides get caught up in personal expectations, rather than appreciating their different perspectives and characteristics.
I would certainly hate to have my traits swept up into the typical female aggregate that seems to be the topic of discussion in these last few threads. Nor would I wish to pack up the guys that I know into a ball and label them "confusing" or "predictable" (because a few reacted similarly in some given hypothetical situation). And to address manipulation: albeit an entirely different vice, is there again also a detriment to both sides' outlooks, in that it constrains the possibilities that their significant other, friend, cohabitant, (whatever) could share or provide for them; rather, one--or both--seek things they want immediately (and almost always misguidedly) because of impulse, lust, greed and all those other nice flaws ever so apparent in the inherent human psyche.
Basically, I believe people as a whole are more stimulated by things that aren't entirely mundane and monotonous over time. Who in their right mind cringes at the euphoria felt from experiencing something intriguing or exciting? Isn't that part of what fuels people to seek lasting relationships to begin with? A need for something almost inexplicable that can't be met with solitude--and being able to reciprocate fulfillment of it with someone else. Moreover, it's amazing how strong people wish to be accepted for who they are and not feel they'll be judged as "stupid" in awkward situations or superfically rejected. Most everyone desires someone who is genuine and understanding, but apparently don't realize that sort of relationship can't happen if there exists misinterpretation, dishonesty, or obstinate close-mindedness in opinion.
Countless peculiarities and countless possibilities. Why degrade them for the sake of pleasing ideals of our meager mental capacities?
-Kara Willis
I'm free for Hawaii! We can pick up chicks and stuff, and pretend we're really rich and have nice cars because thats what chicks REALLY want! Haha, now all the girls here at Rose want to kill me; all 5 of them! J/k. It DOES irritate the crap out of me when girls go running to their friends and talk about every little detail regarding us and how we're such bastards because we reacted to you being a bitch in the first place(but they don't hear that part). It's especially annoying in the context of a relationship. We want to date you, not all your friends, so don't involve them in the relationship. It's equally annoying when the other girls believe it without question. It's sad to see so many herded into one point of view like stupid cattle because they believe inquestioningly their friend's rants without ever thinking there might be two sides to the issue. Thankfully, my girlfriend doesn't do this (anymore) and I respect her MUCH more for it. My point is, don't let guys stereotype you by running to your girlfriends about every little thing he does. Act like an adult and fix problems with the people involved.
-Seraph (Glad Im not looking for girls, cause I have no chance with any here now)
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